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Start by asking your husband what you can do that would make him feel most supported. You may be surprised by his answer. The biblical meaning of submission is worth noting as we consider what it means to back our husband in his ministry. “Sub” means under—so submission simply means to “to come under his mission.” Rather than assume what will buoy your husband for his mission, get the facts. When you actually understand what your husband needs from you to fully feel your backing you may need to prioritize only a few specific things, in order for him to sense your support in his ministry efforts. As a final encouragement, if you are concerned enough about your husband to be wondering how you can better back his ministry; your concern is some support!
- How do you handle a situation when the husband is intimidated by the wife’s calling and how she operates in the spirit?
Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” This and other verses imply that intimidating our husband shouldn’t be on our agenda. That being said, you can’t be responsible, though, for his response to you. As Christians, we are responsible to walk out our faith in ways that honor God and ultimately draw others to Him, not make them fearful of Him or of us. When we walk out our faith well, we love and serve others. We discipline our personal life. These abilities result from time with God and studying His Word. If we display affections that draw attention to ourselves or even to our relationships with God rather than display effort that loves and serves in His name, we may find our energies accomplish little Kingdom progress in our homes or churches.
- How does a wife deal with her husband favoring the opinion of another, when that opinion is in conflict with the wife’s opinion?
There are some days that I don’t even agree with opinions I held just the day before. Opinions are subjective insights. Hopefully, for a Christian wife, most opinions will be steeped in biblical tone and based on facts, but opinion by its very nature is an assessment or judgment that essentially invites investigation by those who have a different point of view. Regarding your specific question about how to deal with that: here’s what makes it truly ok with me if my husband takes someone else’s opinion over mine. My role in our marriage is to give my best insights (prayed through and researched) that I can possibly offer. That’s it. That’s where my input ends and my prayers for my husband’s wisdom begin. My husband’s job is to consider my input, along with all of the other input he has, to pray and make whatever decision he feels is best. A wife can’t let the discouragement of a difference of opinion affect her best efforts to add value to the decisions that must be made as a couple. Stay in the process. The call on our lives is to honor God. Our husband is the blessed recipient of the overflow of that.
Author: Becky Hunter, is a international speaker, and also the author of Being Good to Your Husband on Purpose. She is the wife of Dr. Joel C. Hunter, senior pastor at Northland: A Church Distributed, in Orlando, Florida. To learn more about Becky Hunter and her ministry, please visit www.gpwn.tv.
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